How many times have you heard the phrase, You need to give love to your inner child?
In today’s society it seems like all we do is focus on achieving success and follow society’s standards on what our lives should be. Are we going to keep spinning around without understanding the message? Do you want to continue to live out the same patterns without recognition of the root cause?
I see wounded children in adult bodies everywhere I go. I think it’s time to break free from the patterns you’ve become accustomed to because of the trauma caused to you as a child- You’ve been carrying this heavy load around for too long. Until we don’t come face to face with our reality we will not be able to heal and cultivate meaningful relationships in our daily lives.
Some of you will ask, How do I start to heal my inner child? I can tell you what I have done in my personal life and what’s helped me. Finding the core memory that created the trauma is the first step. Write yourself a letter- to the younger you who endured the pain, be compassionate and kind with yourself, know that what happened is not your fault, but be mindful in understanding that your healing is your responsibility. Set time aside for play, I can’t stress this enough. Being able to see life from your inner child’s point of view will help you find ways to understand the activities and things that will nourish the little you, Reparent yourself if need be. We look up to our parents to be our providers and problem solvers- understanding that our parents too are human beings going through their own growth process will help in your healing and will assist you in creating or refreshening your relationship with your parents or parent figures.
There is nothing wrong with being vulnerable, we have this preconceived notion that being vulnerable or showing vulnerability will be seen as a sign of weakness. I am here to tell you and remind you “THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING VULNERABLE”
Do not allow the toxicity and stigmas that society has created to dictate how you should live and process your life.
There will be times throughout your journey that you will go through periods of deep sadness and you will feel defeated, knowing that in the darkest times is when the soul grows the strongest will allow you the understanding that all things are necessary. Nothing grows in comfort and if you’re not changing you’re not living.
I recommend you find a therapist, mentor, a spiritual guide or someone who you will feel comfortable enough with to share your experience and will help you find the solutions to your current troubles. Know that you are never alone and there are people and resources available, never give up and have faith in yourself. We are all doing the best we can.
